The other night I was laying in bed just tossing and turning. I had a really bad case of momma's guilt. I've been so busy with other "stuff" lately that I've been a little absent in my most important role. Scenes from the day flashed before my eyes. Questions asked and ignored. Little faces by my side wanting attention...my head down...too busy. UGH! It's hard juggling life sometimes. Mostly I'm at their beck and call. My job is taking care of our home and being a mom period. I know my busyness is temporary. This season will pass. I've just never been very good at balancing things. I self imposed deadlines and stress myself out. I have no idea how people work jobs and get everything else done. Kudos to you amazing woman!
So yesterday I rallied and tried really hard to dote on them a little more. We snuggled in bed first thing in the morning. We played a game of Monopoly and had Sunday school....I was the teacher. And today I felt better. They are back in school and there is more time. Time to attack the mountain of laundry that's been piling up. Time to clean the bathrooms...time to get things in order. Thank heavens.
I saw this scripture today and it really blessed my heart....felt like God was telling me that He would provide the strength I needed to get everything done. I'm going to just trust in that today:)
She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. Proverbs 31:17
Have a blessed day.
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Thank you for this, Becky. I struggled with this very thing last weekend. I finally threw my hands in the air and decided my paintings can wait.. My girls can't. I don't regret it one little bit.:)
ReplyDeleteToday I am folding laundry, cleaning bathrooms and painting away. In quiet. God is Good.
Love you, friend.
Melanie
It sounds to me like you do know how to give your life a good balance..and they are getting the mama love and time that they need1 Come say hi :D
ReplyDeleteGoing through the same thing...thanks for sharing the verse. Enjoy your time (and a few snuggles when the girls get home).
ReplyDeleteI went to a scrapbook event and they based their womens group on Proverbs 31.
ReplyDeleteglad you got your time with the girls...
ReplyDeletemakes all those yucky feelings go far away....
we had sunday school at home yesterday, too...
we all needed it!
happy monday, friend!
That verse is part of my favorite verses ever. I'm always reminded of my maternal grandmother when I read them. It's like those verses were written about her.
ReplyDeleteThe good thing is, you recognized what was going on and made sure to make up for it. And I'm sure it's not as bad as you think! :o)
Dishes and clothes and bathrooms can wait. That's my motto! :o)
And from what I can from reading your blog, you're an EXCELLENT mother!! :o)
yesterday i was loser mom as cek asked me to play barbies & i told her i would "later"
ReplyDeletedan, dad of the year, made the time.
many days i wish there were about 3 or 4 more hours...then maybe i culd accomplish more. of course, i'd be really tired!
I struggle with the same thing!!! it's so hard during this "season" of life...wanting to be there for everything, not to miss a memory-in-the-making...
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing that verse! a sweet reminder!
Many Blessings!
jill
I think that we all struggle with achieving balance in our lives. Don't be too hard on yourself. You sensed that you were off and you reset everything. It happens. It is when things get out of balance and they just continue to tilt off kilter that there are REAL PROBLEMS. Finding your center after that is really tough. It is good that you are so attuned to what is IMPORTANT.
ReplyDeletethank you, miss becky! i l.o.v.e. proverbs 31. i could read it for inspiration everyday! thanks for the reminder to read it again :)
ReplyDeletepeace,
alicia
Becky - I was so feeling this lately. I was so needing that verse. THANK YOU - I'm so thankful for YOU!
ReplyDeletexoxo
Love the verse, too. Sometimes we need that little encouragement. :)
ReplyDeleteI think we moms all feel this way. I do . A lot
ReplyDelete:( It seems like I rush them through to get other less important things accomplished, and spend the rest of the night guilty for it. Thanks for the verse.
Love that you received that verse just when you needed it! I think we all struggle with this... I just chipped off some residual mommy guilt by playing Polly Pockets! And all of the dolls are named Jennifer (today), which made it more complicated than ever! ;)
ReplyDeletelove that verse! it's just perfect for you! God is so good like that. take care!
ReplyDeleteoh, i feel the same way a lot of times! glad you are feeling better!
ReplyDeleteI have a hard time juggling everything Becky and I have no kids ~ so I say kudos to the amazing women who do it all! You are such a good Mom and it sounds like yesterday was something you and the chicks needed. I cannot wait to see what you have been working on! xo
ReplyDeleteI need to paint that scripture on something so I can have a daily reminder!
ReplyDeleteI sooo needed this
ReplyDeleteverse, today! It's
a constant battle to
keep it all in the
right perspective.
Jotting it down,
now!
xx Suzanne
Don't we all feel that way at times? I thnk the guilt is delivered right along with the baby. Then, as we leave the hospital, we wrap the baby in a blanket, and we wrap that guilt around ourselves in the same way.
ReplyDeleteIt has to be ok to take time for the other things that bring you joy. Try to reframe it and think of it as a learning opportunity for your chicks. They've seen you working hard and taking the time to do something that you love. Don't you want them to do the same as they grow up? Besides, if you hadn't been working so hard, would you have as much appreciation for your fun Sunday? Good lessons all around... :)
I love this verse, and I'm glad it blessed you.
ReplyDeleteThanks for passing by. You're lovely!!!
I would most certainly call you a Proverbs 31 woman, friend! You are to ME!
ReplyDeleteXO,
Anne
Working moms or stay-at-home moms...we're all the same...our work is never done and we feel guilty because we can't do it all, all the time. And that's when we need to do what you did...take a break and just spend time with our family:)
ReplyDeleteI too wonder how they get it all done! I always feel like I could have done more for my little ones and feel guilty about ignoring certain things. The verse you chose was perfect. You are an amazing mom and you are not alone in this! :)
ReplyDeleteI love this post...real...with a capital R!!
ReplyDeleteIt IS so tough - I love how music and reading scripture sets me straight and gets me back on the path... I was SO struggling yesterday and a little today and this is what got me "back on board" ... Cast your cares upon the Lord, for he cares about you. - I Peter 5:7
ReplyDeleteSometimes I think, this is silly - I shouldn't take this concern to him... but this sealed it - no matter what it is... he cares.
Love your new pic - isn't it weird how you can get good pics of yourself in the car of all places? I always do.
Happy Week, Sami Jo
I can't wait to see everything you are working on. There are moments when we have perfect balance and times we don't. They know how deeply you love them.
ReplyDeleteGreat post. It's sooo hard to be the mommy we all want to be. It's just so good that you care so much and made that extra time with your little girlies.
ReplyDeleteI seriously have no idea how you do it. I can't keep a 2 bedroom apartment in order and it's just us!
ReplyDeleteThat was such a great post...
ReplyDeleteLove the verse...
It is such an inspiration to all Moms out there.
: )
ReplyDeleteamen for His strength! once in a while i can catch my breath but its so rare! i remind myself that seasons come and go... once my babies are in school i'll be wishing they weren't, longing to have them back at home all day! so, i remind myself to savor the long days because the years are short! hope you have a productive week.
ReplyDeleteThis is a wonderful post!
ReplyDeleteIt really is amazing how much more I can get done when I first start out talking to God about my day ahead. I don't do it as consistently as I should first thing, but when I do it amazes me how much more I accomplish and without much extra effort it seems. Even when your kiddos are grown up and gone, time can still get chaotic when trying to do it all on your own. But I'm so glad you took this special time with your chicks. Believe me when I say, they grow up way to fast and they will forever remember these special days together with their mom. Really, they won't remember the laundry not getting done etc...
ReplyDeleteYou are such a good momma!
♥Lee Ann
Becky,
ReplyDeleteThis is so me right now. I am absolutely overwhelmed with deadlines and totally feeling like a failure every night when I go to bed. :( I am working on balance too. Getting through the busy season and then? I'm gonna do better...
yes... yes... yes!
ReplyDeletei feel it too!
i toss & turn most nights... with it ALL.
we as mommies DO have a lot on our shoulders...
so many balls in the air. all AT ONCE.
i have to say... i sure drop lots of balls.
you know... i have to say... i think of you often...
and how you so beautifully do SO much!
all i know... you do have mighty... strong... arms...
and one amazing heart!
carissa