It's a new day. So thankful that God gives us brand new days. A chance to wipe our hands clean and dust off the debris...the dirt that life throws at us, and to look up and be grateful for a squeaky clean slate. One that hasn't been written on yet.
I've been pondering what to say regarding my last post. I will tell you that I went to that uncomfortable place...the place where reconciliation has to come. I'd almost rather go through childbirth than do that. I hate conflict that much. It's one of the hardest things I think we have to face in life...being really honest with each other. It's facing ugly truths about ourselves and sharing our inner most thoughts...not knowing how the other person will receive it. It's scary and painful, and just plain exhausting.
We've talked and both of us have asked for forgiveness. Real true love requires forgiveness, because we are all human...we each will inevitability hurt one another. That's just life. But it's the forgetting and moving on that is the really hard part and I think only time and space allows that. So that's where I'm at.
Now can I say a big thank you to each one of you who prayed for me and left me the nicest comments. Your words and support were like a cozy warm blanket. I actually felt your love and understanding, and when you are in pain like that, that is what you need the most. I wish I could give each one of you a big hug. I truly have the best readers in the world!!
Have a blessed day.
I feel so bad for missing your post yesterday Becky and what you were going through. Reconciliation is hard ~ forgiveness is hard ~ but if you stay angry it so eats away at you and you only end up hurting yourself. I pull from experience ~ someone hurt me very badly ~ stabbed me in the back and left the knife for all to see. I blocked her from my life and you know what ~ it did not hurt her at all ~ only me. After 5 years (I am a slow learner!) I went to her ~ got a lot off my chest and we are friends again. We will never be as close as we once were ~ but we are there for each other now. Hugs to you my friend. xo
ReplyDeleteI love your phrase about the "cozy warm blanket." Glad you had a talk and are working on the forgiveness part. I agree it surely is one of the hardest experiences of life.
ReplyDeleteClean slates are always a blessing. I too hate conflict and can relate to your post. Glad that today is a better day for you. Beautiful photos~
ReplyDeleteoh dear...i hope the week is going better for you. i am just catching up on blogs...jury duty...yes, i was picked for a 3 week case!!!
ReplyDeletebut, i am praying for you girl and hoping that you will find peace in whatever is happening.
i am hear if you need to talk
xoxo
m
I am so glad that today was a better day for you. I am right along side you when it comes to conflict, I rather do childbirth as well! :)
ReplyDeleteI am so glad that you talked it out and are now on the road to forgiveness. You are right, in time the wound will heal and the heart will mend and the mind will forget, just remember it takes time. Blessing to you! :)
Your so worth it! Here is something I recently read in a book called The Shack:
ReplyDelete"Trust is the fruit of a relationship in which you know you are loved. Because you do not know that I love you, you cannont trust me". ~The Shack by Wm. Paul Young
I am all over this. I recently realized that the reason I felt so distant from people was because I didn't feel loved by them and thus I didn't trust them. I felt that I was giving more love than I was receiving and that is hard. I'm praying that your relationship/friendship is filled with love again so that trust can flow abundantly between ya'll :)
Have a BLESSED Thursday!
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I am glad you're doing so much better! Time heals all even though it takes awhile , and "This too shall pass".
ReplyDeleteI happened to find your blog at just the right time. I am going through the very same thing and you're right, it's very very tough. I appreciate your thoughts and wisdom on this and hopefully I will get to "that spot" soon. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI loved reading through all your older posts - your blog is just lovely!
I look forward to following along ~
Sarah
Becky, so glad the two of you are working on it. Life can sure be tough sometimes...these are the times we do our growing and when you come through the other side you will be stronger.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you on the whole conflict thing Becky. I hate confrontation and down in the dirt honesty. It's hard and it hurts.
ReplyDeleteSo very glad that you were able to reconcile and I hope that the pain and memory of it will diminish very rapidly.
xx
so true. i had a friend for over 20 years walk away from our friendship.
ReplyDeletetook me a year before i finally quit thinking about it daily. broke my heart.
so i'm thankful ya'll are in a place of cleaning the slate. & yes, praying for you is exactly what we friends out here are for!! {{{hugs}}}}
Just checking in,
ReplyDeletesweet friend. I'm
glad that you are
in a better place,
today.....You are
right, time will
most definitely help.
I applaud your courage
for looking this straight
in the face. When I
went through my similar
crisis, the other person
wanted to talk right away
and I declined; I felt
too raw and had to put it
off for a few weeks. In
retrospect, this wasn't
the best move. We've found
a peace, of sorts, since,
and I hope the same for you!
Big hugs,
xx Suzanne
You are awesome Becky!! ;) thanks for sharing..
ReplyDeleteSweetest Becky, I prayed for you all day today. I completely relate. Conflict is what I tremble at. You are so full of love and Christ's light. Still praying for you.
ReplyDeleteBecky, I am so happy that you and your friend have forgiven one another. Not all of us get a second chance to forgive. Your right about it being tough. I'm glad thatyour moving onto a new day.:)
ReplyDeleteYour photos are lovely. Looks like you got a frost over night.
Mary
Girl, I've been MIA for 2 days! And look at all I've missed. I hate that you went through that. There aren't many things that feel worse. So glad you shared the redemption story with all of us. You're so right - we are all human.
ReplyDeleteI am so touched by your words today and just by your blog in general. It seems that when we reach into the deepest part of our hearts, we find a place where everyone has been...and then we all connect. I am sixty. Confrontation is still brutally painful for me I pray that you feel peace with this situation and come out with that beautiful clean feeling.
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Suz
http://katsuijewelry.blogspot.com
forgiveness is tricky like that... it's easy to say you forgive, it's harder to live it out. how awesome it is, though, to see the example of our Savior's forgiveness towards us, everyday!
ReplyDeleteBecky, I am so happy that it seems that you will be able to work things out with your friend. I've been down this road too with someone I thought was my best friend, so I know the toll that conflict can take on a person. Although, you'll never forget what happened, in time you will hopefully find peace and forgiveness. Best wishes :)
ReplyDeleteClean slates are so good and so important on many levels. May you see your path...
ReplyDeleteAnd may you have a peaceful beautiful weekend.
Oh Becky, i missed your posts this week with my projects so i just got caught up with you and I'm so sorry to hear about conflict with a dear friend, I've been there as well a few years ago and remember the raw pain and having to move forward. New days are the best and your faith will keep you strong! big hugs to you for all you share and having an huge heart that loves so deeply!!!!! that is the best blessing!!!
ReplyDeletewishing you a wonderful weekend,
xo,
LuLu
i am praying that your clean slate offers the peace you deserve. {{hugs}}
ReplyDeleteAwe, Becky unfortunately women can be beasts and hopefully you can get through this. Time helps because you either work it out or realize life does go on. I have a friend and we've had some doozies, kind a love hate thing. I decided I was a better person when I didn't care and things just got better.
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping over and sending your love about my pumpkin toparies. They were fun to make. Hey I saw the sign at Sasha's blog about marshmallows. Do you still make those, its fantastic and I am in love!
Meg
A "clean slate" feels good, doesn't it? I'm so glad you were able to resolve some things...you took the first step...just remember you're not alone in this journey. Hugs to you, sweet Becky:)
ReplyDeletei'm glad to hear you're ironing things out...reconciliation can be such a bittersweet thing. thinking of you, becky!
ReplyDeleteps...just looked at my pics again and i'm sooo excited!!
Love your blog. Not sure what happened in regards to this post but I'm glad you feel some peace :)
ReplyDeleteSo glad you were able to ask each other for forgiveness...I too hate times like that, not sure I would choose childbirth over it tho! he he! You are a stronger person now, and I am sure when time heals you will be the great friends you were....have a wonderful weekend! xo
ReplyDeleteHey sweety, sorry to hear about your tough week. I've been kind of out of the loop of the blogworld this week as my husband had vayk all week. Thank you for sharing that song from the Newsboys... what a goody. & I wanted to also share my new fav with you which is Hanging on by Nicole Britt.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gTNdcfMFSvQ
Music speaks to me, heals me, and encourages me to press on.
Have a peaceful weekend, doll - <3 SJ
Wouldn't miss the opportunity to pray for our sweet Becky! I know you would do the same for me whenever I need it. You are just that special kind of gal named Becky that we all love and adore!
ReplyDeleteTough love is soooo hard, but so the right way if you want real true sincere friendships. I am the same way you are with conflict. I hate going there with a passion. It reminds me of the quote from Velveteen Rabbit. "...once you are REAL you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
I'm so glad YOU are my REAL friend!
♥Lee Ann
Your tackling a tough one. Depending how hard the right hook was and how far from left field I have a big struggle with the forgetting. It's a huge challenge if the person has never asked for forgiveness, that's where I can really nurse a grudge. But then I remember all my own sin and that if I don't forgive my own slate will not be wiped clean. So I forgive out of obedience and wait for God to change my feelings.
ReplyDeleteSometimes after a really big hurt like that I forgive and end the relationship, or it mends.
so glad it's going better for you!
ReplyDeleteYou are definitely a brave soul. So funny how we would much rather go through physical pain (pain of childbirth!)rather than confront someone we love or to forgive!
ReplyDeleteLuckily, our Father in Heaven is not like us! The forgiveness is there ALWAYS, just for the asking. Now if only we can keep trusting Him and following His example then the forgetting will come as well.
Peace.
Relationships are just so hard. So glad you have some peace in the matter though.
ReplyDeleteSorry I missed your post. Glad you have resolved things. I had a good friend where things went wrong. Lying on her part, bad actions, hurt feelings. I forgave her and even love her but we don't really hang out. So after many trials I decided to love her in spite of it all, but it must be from afar. I couldn't resolve myself to some of her values. Glad you found peace. God always has the answer if we will just listen :)
ReplyDeleteBeautiful photos and words Becky. Refining...
ReplyDeleteThose pictures are gorgeous. I'm reading your blog backwards so I'm off to get to the next post
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