Saturday, January 30, 2010

Company's comin'



One of the things about living away from family is that we don't get a lot of company. That's good and bad. I get completely out of practice.


I got a phone call the other night from my Uncle Gene wanting to come for a visit. He's in Minnesota for a few days and thought of us. What is it about company that freaks me out a little bit?? I go into panic mode, trying to figure out what to make for dinner. I have to have the whole house spotless. I want everything to be perfect. It's totally exhausting and I know this about myself, it wouldn't matter who it was. The thing is I'm sure he could totally care less. He's really nice, but it's my Uncle and for some reason I feel like I'm 10 years old again and he's going to be seeing my grown up house and tasting my food!!! What will we talk about? Will he ever want to come back? YIKES, am I stressing you out yet?:)




He came...ate my food,
played with my Chicks and had a great time. So see it's all good;)
I can be such a worry wart!



When you come over, and yes you are all invited... I promise not to spaz out too much. Visiting someone's house is like looking into their soul. It says so much. My house is such a peek into who I am. My art is all over...it's just very much me. So of course I want you to like it...like me:) Get it. Please tell me you get a little nervous too???




Have a blessed day.


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45 comments:

  1. I do get nervous, very nervous. I love being hospitable to everyone yet I get nervous. I love to cook and come up with dinner party ideas, yet I get nervous. Is the house clean enough? Will they like my home? Is it homey and comfy or sterile or dirty? Will they like the appetizers, the meal the desserts? The coffee? How about the conversation? What will I talk about ?? Will it be uplifting and encouraging? will I talk too much or too little? I hope that they like me 'outside' of church. I hope my cats don't bug them too much and how I wished i had a dishwasher.............yeah. I get nervous

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  2. i used to get nervous and wear myself out fanatically cleaning an already clean house, but now i've learned to relax more.

    to feel welcomed, appreciated and good conversation....that's what most people want.

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  3. Depends on the company, but I can definitely get nervous & go into uber-hostess mode! Like you, I feel like my home is a reflection of me...and, of course, I want them to enjoy their visit:) But, I am learning to relax a bit and not worry so much;)

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  4. I SOOO feel you on that one. It is someone looking at the real you, not the played down version like at work or shopping. I can totally relate. Luckily, there is that voice that says they are really coming for the fun company. If they like us they will like our house...dust bunnies and all, in my case. :) P.S. I'm pretty sure at least 84.52% of the women would fall into the same category as us, right? It's a love/hate dilemma. :)

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  6. I FEEL your pain! ;) The conversation & food part is fun for me... so I don't stress about that. BUT... I always feel like my house needs to be spotless before someone comes over (and with a house full of boys... I'd FREAK if someone just popped in unannounced). My mom was the same way & it drove me crazy growing up. Now I'm just like her. :)

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  7. Yes lol. I always tend to feel like I'm on display when people come over and I know that's not really the case. But at the same time I'm mentally begging them not to judge me I'm begging them the like me.
    I'm a people person to the umpth degree and there are times I have to just calm down and go with the flow. It's not easy but the day seems to be a better one when I can remember to relax and just have fun with the family and friends who want to spend time with me at my house. The aren't coming over because they want to judge the house or me they're coming over because they love me and they enjoy spending time with me.

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  8. Totally do! and the worst thing is I'm a procrastinator - so not only am I stressed about them coming but I do EVERYTHING the night before they come. I wait to the last second and I drive my husband batty! xoxo, The Lady

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  9. Yeay for you!!
    Oh! I get so nervous but I've learned- painfully- that the most important thing is to be gracious. If you are ***hospitable**- not perfect, not Martha Stewart, not a gourmet cook- but Hospitable and welcoming- THAT is what makes someone feel loved.
    ;o)

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  10. I'm not nervous. but i know that my company that's coming loves me very much! :)

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  11. Ha! I love you for being a worry wart. We are so the same...I used to just go crazy when any occasion to be host came up. I have always felt like my gift was hospitality but I have come to actually have an understanding of that that means for me- Being hospitable is something I can be no matter WHERE I am- because it's more about making the person you are with feel comfortable and putting them at ease, than what I can "present" to them. I have to say that over the past year, I've given a ton of that old hospitality freak out up since that realization hit me. I just realized one day that a sterile, in my case, house makes people more on edge because they are afraid to mess it up! And when I just be casual and hang out in the kitchen and put them to work alongside me, or we talk and laugh and eat where ever we want and kids are running in and out as we tell them to quit interrupting, they actually LIKE IT. Crazy that. :)

    I love that we are so the same...

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  12. Ummmmm, you must be my long lost "soul sister" because I do the same thing. :) It has to be perfect no matter who it is. Thank goodness that God has blessed us with the heart of hospitality...I think it is beautiful that you want your home to reflect you & your family. Don't fret...you have company!!! :)
    PS Thank you for writing a blog full of honesty & heart. It is a pleasure to read.

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  13. Ha! I am exactly the same way! By the way, that picture of you is ADORABLE!!!!!!

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  14. I know *exactly* how you're feeling. I'm hosting a baby shower for my sister and ALL my aunts and cousins are coming to my house - many for the 1st time! (and they're all expert house designers and party throwers!) YES! I'm nervous! ;)

    xoxo - T.

    PS - heard the Boom Boom Pow song on the radio the other day and thought of you! Made me smile! xo

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  15. oh yes, i freak out. you are not alone. i think the worst part is that my husband is ready at a moment's notice to allow anyone to come right in. i need our house to look like a model home that no one lives in before i 'm ready! the problem is, people do live here, so it will probably never look like they don't!

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  16. I think you look a bit like Tina Fey in your first pic on this post. Thanks for the sweet comments on my blog recklessbliss. I would love for you to be a follower! God bless!

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  17. I still get a little nervous, but (and maybe this is an age thing) not as much as before. Now I can reason that no one else's house is perfect, and if it IS, they obviously don't have much of a life outside of cleaning! But I had to decide what was most important for me and my family, and being comfortable and being able to relax and have fun and fellowship is the most important, and the house doesn't have to be perfect for that. Nice and clean, but maybe even a tad cluttered is just fine with me.

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  18. OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH Yes I do. Every time. I'm my mother's daughter, for sure.

    But, it sure gets my house cleaned up nice! haha

    I ALWAYS make WAY too much food too!

    Hugs,
    Traci

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  19. seems like i always stress before and then it turns out just fine.....love the wii! enjoy your weekend. susan

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  20. I'm a lot like that also. I make sure everything is spotless! I don't like to cook for anyone even though I'm not a bad cook, I just don't think it is fancy enough! I'm glad your Uncle enjoyed himself and your family also!

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  21. OH yes, I get nervous and start stuffing everything away and then can't find it! Looks like he had a blast! Hope you're having a fun weekend!

    Janet

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  22. Do I get nervous when someone is coming to my home? You bet I do. I want everything to be perfect! Even though I know they are coming to see me and not my home I work hard to get it all right. I stress big time. But in the end it works out. I'm sure your uncle had a wonderful time. :)

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  23. First of all, that picture of you is too cute, as is the picture of your Uncle playing the Wii with the girls! That just made me smile, what a sweet Uncle! I like to have my house spotless for first impressions, then as I get more comfortable with friends I tend to let things slide a little more. Never is anything UNclean, but like tonight... We had the neighbors over tonight for games, and I had peanut butter handprints on my fridge. :P I think a lot stems from the fact that my Mom was a clean freak growing up, and I vowed never to be as spazzy as she, haha! :)

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  24. Even if it is my own mommy!! Well, especially then... It has to be perfect. Every minute scheduled. My mother was the most incredible hostess... and she laughs every time I tell her that...

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  25. Oh you played Wii bowling!! I understand fully the panic thing, because unless you have company over every day, I think we all go through a bit of the same emotion. I'm sure your Uncle loved the spirit of Becky all through the house, including probably seeing little Becky again in Big or Little Chic.

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  26. I'm the same way...I could have written this post, too!!

    I have a friend coming to stay with us in May for a long weekend and I'm ALREADY trying to think of things for us to do and how I can get my 6 year old son's bedroom more comfortable for her. (I hope she likes Lightening McQueen bedding) I'm even trying to come up with little goodie basket ideas like bottled water, granola bars and snacky stuff, and things she may forget at home. Is that over the top?

    :)

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  27. I'm glad all went well!! That is awesome! Yes I too freak out a little!! I cannot stand to have someone in my home if there is ANY messes!! And I always try to keep everything tidy and "perfect" but my family does not always follow along LOL!!! So NO you are not alone in this misery!!

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  28. I'm happy that you had a nice time with your uncle. My precious auntie is visiting from Minnesota right now. She leaves her perfectly immaculate and lovely home, and her husband who is off on his own golfing vacation somewhere with his buddies...to come out to Washington several times a year, stay in my mess of an under restoration home, where she can wear her robe and slippers all day long...with curlers in her hair...eat yummy terrible food...and play Boggle marathons day after day.

    We have so much fun! Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

    : )

    Julie M.

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  29. I do get franctic and worried with guests coming...we rarely have people stay with us so I completely understand...I love everything to have a place and stress too...but it always ends up okay doesn't it??? It looks like you all had a lot of fun together...which I am sure was perfect for him and everyone! You have a welcoming heart so I am sure your guests always look forward to it when they come.

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  30. yes, I totally can relate to that - except for the art on the wall :)

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  31. Ditto... I used to make myself sick - but as I get older it seems to get better...

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  32. okay, I TOTALLY do the same thing, two weeks from now, my sons biological dad will be staying here to come visit him. Being in the same room as your ex boyfriend and your super awesome hubby is really weird, but weve all been dealing with it for 7 years now, and still I freak out, and clean and generally get sick to my stomach.

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  33. Yes, I always did this and afterwards I would chide myself for getting into such a tizzy over company and overdoing everything! Now that I'm getting close to 50, I'm learning NOT to do this. NOT to worry about the house being spotless (this is a toughie!), and NOT to overbuy food and fix everything under the sun! I've only done this a few times so far, but it's been quite liberating so far, so I intend NOT to stress out any longer over company! :)

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  34. OMG.. I am a crazy women when I have company... It is so bad my husband just usually runs and hide until the moment company is to arrive... Why do we stress ourselves out so much when it us they are coming to see not our perfect home...

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  35. Yes....I wig out completely and clean my house like its going on the market.
    Beth

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  36. I totally stress out when we are about to have company ~ cleaning, fluffing, planning meals ~ it is crazy really. By the time they get here I am exhausted ~ but I love it! I think that I was born to be a hostess...

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  37. Obviously I'm a kid I don't get nervous but my mom is another story!LOL The house needs to be spotless, and... well that's IT! All we do when someone comes over is clean! I'm trying to teach her that some people could care less but we'll see!LOL

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  38. I think we're the same all over the world! I stress that my house isn't clean enough and even notice marks on walls that must be repainted before visitors arrive! I tend to fuss over stupid details and forbid anyone to touch things I've already cleaned so I don't have to do it again! Bit of a nutcase really! I NEVER stress about the food though as my husband does all the cooking in our house and never lets anyone down - lucky me! The truth is though when I visit someone I never notice their mess and feel more relaxed if the place isn't immaculate. We only tend to notice the faults in our own houses so chances your Uncle Gene will only notice how warm and inviting your house is and not the dust bunnies setting up home in your corners!!

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  39. SOUNDS LIKE YOU WERE A GREAT HOSTESS! I GET A BIT NERVOUS BECAUSE IT SEEMS WE EAT MORE AND MORE, AND I WORRY THAT I'VE GOT ENOUGH FOR! :D

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  40. I get nervous but that's because my house is generally in state of disarray and there's just not enough space for all the stuff we have. So I try to pick up but where is it all supposed to go! Thankfully my family and friends see past it all and still love me. :)

    Glad you had a good time with your Uncle. Hope you had a lovely weekend!

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  41. Never get nervous if It's a male coming for company... we never notice if everything isn't just right or if anything is just right for that matter. Just act like your happy to see us. And act like your sad to see us go, everything in between is all gravy! Great blog Becky. I know your uncle was thrilled to visit.

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  42. I'm practically jumping up and down and squealig because I feel like I've found my long lost twin. I am EXACTLY the same way when company's a'comin'! After 20 yrs of marriage, my husband is not afraid of anything I say or do EXCEPT: "So-n-so is coming over." This automatically sends chills down his spine, he turns white as a sheet and he starts scanning the horizon for dirt. In his mind, our house is always clean and nice. (I wish I lived in his world.) In my mind, I'm 20 yr. old in my first apartment and my parents are coming to visit for the first time. I'm right there with you...and I'll still be hyper-driving into panic mode when I'm 80 if I hear the doorbell ring!

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  43. girl,i am the same way! however, my family is here in town! i am so glad you had a great time! i am sure everything was perfect!

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  44. Yes!!! What is with that?! I am the same way when people come to visit. I go crazy and almost have a melt down. That explains Christmas! I had around 15 people visiting over a three week period. I really thought I would lose my mind. And that does not include my family of 7.

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  45. I think I am queen freak when it comes to company. I want it to be perfect as to not let anyone know my true colors. But lately I've realized the piles of laudry, paper, books are just part of being who I am am and thats ok. I won't stop being a freak when company comes but I have stopped stuffing it into the closets!

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